A while back the Learning Annex asked me to teach another class on how to overcome procrastination. I remember thinking it weird that anyone who procrastinated would sign up for a procrastination class. Wouldn't they just procrastinate signing up?
If you've ever studied goal setting or the setting of New Year's resolutions, you undoubtedly must have heard that the average New Year's Resolution is out the door after the first 3 weeks into the New Year. Why is this?
The reasons are endless; some delay goals, some forget about them, others change them and so on. The main reasons are different for each person; a faster explanation may be as follows: Most people are putting too many goals on their list and aim too high and then try to attempt the path on their own and without support. In addition, most people are too hard with themselves and at the slightest inkling of what feels like failure, they throw it all away. To add to this misery most people have a tendency to share their ambitious goals with those that have no business of knowing about them in the first place, because it's as if they are just waiting in the bushes to pounce out and say: "Ha! I knew you couldn't do it."
There has to be a solution to changing our lives for the better - what is it?
First, inquire within. I am not kidding. Everyone is different about how they react to goals. To one person a test is their worst nightmare and to the next person his greatest reason for putting the nose into their books. To me deadlines are motivational, the tighter the deadline and the harder the task, the more I am turned on to getting it done. For others a deadline may be their worst nightmare.
Let's look at the infamous New Year's resolution to losing weight. It never fails that we are inundated with yet one more diet plan at the beginning of each New Year. To make losing weight a New Year's resolution in my opinion is stupid. Not only is it cruel and harsh on the body, it is especially unrealistic, overwhelming and an attempt to look into an attempt to put yourself into a strip down prison. One we're meant to break out of after the first 3 weeks in January.
Try this instead: Make it your goal to always feel great and fit.
Think about this, if you have one goal in mind and that is to feel great and fit, you have just stripped your scale of its rights. On the other hand, if you make it your goals to lose x-number of pounds then your scale becomes your say-all, your ruler, your king, your measuring stick, your boss. Instead let's keep in mind that our bodies care for only the following; bodies want to feel cared for, fed with real food, satisfaction is a must, loved, caressed, hugged, paid attention to and used for what it was intended to (to move you around).
Are you getting it?
Your body is all-wise, let it figure out how to lose the weight. Your body was created for on purpose only, and that is to get you through this life so you can achieve your purpose. The only thing for you to do is to support it in what it wants, give it real foods and obey it. Once your body feels that you're on its side and you give it nothing but respect, your body will give you a thousand-fold in return so that amazingly beautiful Being can come forth.
So this year make only one New Year's Resolution: Respect yourself and your body, love yourself and your body, pay attention to your Soul's wisdom instead of other people. Believe that you are protected by divine order. And the doors which open easiest for you in 2008 are the ones you are meant to walk through.
If you can make this ONE New Year's Resolution and stick to it each and every day, you will come to the end of 2008 and be amazed, surprised, and ecstatic at how easy things fell in place for you this year. Almost as if by magic...
So here is to your best year!
If you've ever studied goal setting or the setting of New Year's resolutions, you undoubtedly must have heard that the average New Year's Resolution is out the door after the first 3 weeks into the New Year. Why is this?
The reasons are endless; some delay goals, some forget about them, others change them and so on. The main reasons are different for each person; a faster explanation may be as follows: Most people are putting too many goals on their list and aim too high and then try to attempt the path on their own and without support. In addition, most people are too hard with themselves and at the slightest inkling of what feels like failure, they throw it all away. To add to this misery most people have a tendency to share their ambitious goals with those that have no business of knowing about them in the first place, because it's as if they are just waiting in the bushes to pounce out and say: "Ha! I knew you couldn't do it."
There has to be a solution to changing our lives for the better - what is it?
First, inquire within. I am not kidding. Everyone is different about how they react to goals. To one person a test is their worst nightmare and to the next person his greatest reason for putting the nose into their books. To me deadlines are motivational, the tighter the deadline and the harder the task, the more I am turned on to getting it done. For others a deadline may be their worst nightmare.
Let's look at the infamous New Year's resolution to losing weight. It never fails that we are inundated with yet one more diet plan at the beginning of each New Year. To make losing weight a New Year's resolution in my opinion is stupid. Not only is it cruel and harsh on the body, it is especially unrealistic, overwhelming and an attempt to look into an attempt to put yourself into a strip down prison. One we're meant to break out of after the first 3 weeks in January.
Try this instead: Make it your goal to always feel great and fit.
Think about this, if you have one goal in mind and that is to feel great and fit, you have just stripped your scale of its rights. On the other hand, if you make it your goals to lose x-number of pounds then your scale becomes your say-all, your ruler, your king, your measuring stick, your boss. Instead let's keep in mind that our bodies care for only the following; bodies want to feel cared for, fed with real food, satisfaction is a must, loved, caressed, hugged, paid attention to and used for what it was intended to (to move you around).
Are you getting it?
Your body is all-wise, let it figure out how to lose the weight. Your body was created for on purpose only, and that is to get you through this life so you can achieve your purpose. The only thing for you to do is to support it in what it wants, give it real foods and obey it. Once your body feels that you're on its side and you give it nothing but respect, your body will give you a thousand-fold in return so that amazingly beautiful Being can come forth.
So this year make only one New Year's Resolution: Respect yourself and your body, love yourself and your body, pay attention to your Soul's wisdom instead of other people. Believe that you are protected by divine order. And the doors which open easiest for you in 2008 are the ones you are meant to walk through.
If you can make this ONE New Year's Resolution and stick to it each and every day, you will come to the end of 2008 and be amazed, surprised, and ecstatic at how easy things fell in place for you this year. Almost as if by magic...
So here is to your best year!
About the Author:
Chaszey Sandhriel is the creator of the "Letting-Go Method" and an expert on how to lose weight while freeing yourself from dieting. She offers free tips and audio on her website at http://www.itsmyweightloss.com and hosts a weight loss blog for the lonely and sad, http://itsmyweightloss.blogspot.com.
